August 8-10, 2019
"“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”"
Courage is not just a quality exclusively for the superheroes in the movies and the comic books. Courage is in all of us.
Courage is intentional and impacts how we show up in the everyday choices we make – the everyday choices that matter in our relationships, how we spend our time, how we talk to + treat ourselves.
It takes courage to ask for help.
It takes courage to set a boundary – and even more courage to maintain that boundary. (Right?)
It takes courage to admit to not having everything figured out.
It takes courage to face and deal with reoccurring struggles.
It takes courage to stand up to the office bully: to advocate for your child; to question your health care professionals when you do not agree with recommendations.
It take courage to be human.
You have a life of meaning and purpose to live. Tolerating vulnerability is crucial to practicing courage – which is tricky because the brain categorizes vulnerability as dangerous.
Potentia’s cornerstone workshop helps individuals desiring to take the insights of the research of Brené Brown to action by developing a personalized shame resilience practice based on your unique story and personal + professional needs today. You will deepen your understanding of the impact of trauma + family of origin, shame, courage, fear, and empathy have on your life so you can improve how you show up in all areas of your life connected to those who truly matter with clarity on your core values.
Desiring more confidence in your personal and professional life requires clarity of values and courage. In order to make a bigger impact with your life — from parenthood to teaching to ministry to the working in the world wide web, to serving, to creating you art — it all requires us to show up and be seen. Not in how we think we should be seen but as our unique selves.
Everyone deals with shame.
We all have triggers and soft spots — memories and moments that take us back to unpleasant places.
(re) define Courage will equip you with the tools to identify your unique shame triggers and redirect your emotions toward empathy, connection, and grace.
It’s time to stop shame from hijacking your dreams, your creativity, your sense of worth and intrinsic value.
Shame isolates us and makes us feel we’re the only one.
We invite you to tell shame it no longer can rule your life.
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Q: What will the format of the Weekly Workshop/Weekend be? How will the content be delivered?
A: (re) define Courage content is presented in a multi-media, multi-disciplinary format to support different learning style (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, etc.). Activities and content formats will include: brief lecture, video clips from Brené Brown, workshops, binder of written materials, in-group discussion, collage, letter-writing, experiential group and break out sessions. No matter what kind of a learner you are, you’ll find ways to access the material that work best for you.
The workshop format is three consecutive days usually Thursday – Saturday. Schedule flights after 5PM on Saturday and make sure you arrive in San Diego by 4PM on Thursday.
Q: Is this like group therapy? Will people be encouraged to get openly emotional?
A: (re) define Courage is a therapeutic and experiential program run by a licensed therapist. It will not always feel like plunging the depths of your soul. However, there will be times when people will drop in, get real, and give light to parts of their story that are sensitive. YOU get to choose what to share and not to share. People may share their fears and deep vulnerabilities. Someone’s story may bring up raw emotion, for either the storyteller or someone hearing it. (That person could be you!) We do go deep, and yes, it is a therapeutic setting. Some moments during the weekend will feel hard. Some moments will feel light and freeing. It will all be powerful.
No one will goad, manipulate, exhort, or “force” you to be emotional in any way that isn’t coming naturally to you. The space we create is all about safety. You choose to participate and share as much or as little as you feel comfortable. Seriously, you can pass on sharing at any time and that is OK – in fact this is an important understanding of the workshop experience.
Q: Will this Weekly Workshop/Weekend permanently “fix” my feelings of shame?
A: We are not promising a permanent “fix” to negative emotions, because negative emotions are simply a part of life. After (re) define Courage, you will still experience hurt. You will still struggle. But when shame, fear, and disconnection threaten your sense of worthiness, you will now have actionable tools that make dealing with shameful feelings more in line with your values. You will learn how to stop disconnecting from others and from yourself, blaming or attacking when you’re feeling shame. To use a computer metaphor, you will learn how to come back “online” sooner and not feel like you sense of core worth is zapped.
Q: Can the secret to overcoming shame really be taught?
A: There is no secret to overcoming shame. Shame is a part of the human experience. Empathy is the antidote to shame. Self-Compassion is the key to empathy boundaries and sustaining empathy. Empathy and Self-Compassion are learned skills that each of us has to practice. In this workshop, you’ll learn how the power of empathy to work on shame wounds. You’ll learn how to specifically practice empathy in ways that you keep you connected to yourself, to others, and to life, rather than letting shameful feelings take you out of commission. You’ll learn the role of boundaries (not walls) in healthy, thriving personal and professional relationships.
Q. What is the big deal about doing this work with a trained The Daring Way™ professional? Can’t anyone lead this work?
Good question. Choosing who will lead you in the launch of your life-long shame resilience practice is an important decision. Brené Brown and her team developed a very thoughtful and specialized training to ensure the highest ethical and professional standards are practiced when leading people in developing their shame resilience practice. Shame work is trauma work. Finding a clinician who is a part of The Daring Way™ community ensures you are working with someone who has developed both head and heart mastery of this important work.
Q: I’m terrified of people/being vulnerable with a group of people I don’t know. Can I still benefit from attending even if I’m super shy, socially awkward, suffer from social anxiety, or really don’t like sharing things with people I don’t know?
A: The beauty of being human is that we all can relate to the experience of feeling not quite good enough. While you may be shy, feel awkward, or even deal with socially-induced panic and anxiety, please know that everyone in the group will likely feel uncomfortable to some degree, at some point during the (re) define Courage experience. It’s possible that others in the group may share the exact same experiences with shyness and fear that you do. It’s possible that someone who appears more ‘outgoing’ or comfortable may find your extra level of vulnerability refreshing, because it gives them permission to be vulnerable, too. Breakout sessions will allow for more time to share in more depth. We all need compassionate witnesses as we redefine our relationships to shame. You may feel awkward or uncomfortable at times, and you may even need to leave the room for a few minutes to breathe (and that’s okay), but we ask that you remain willing to be in the process.
Q: I’m not sure I feel good about spending money on personal development. Please help me justify this to myself.
A: We support you, as a potential client, in being financially responsible, and we’re glad you’re taking care to make sure this is a wise investment for you right now. This is a high-touch experience created to offer a specialized experience. Please inquire about payment plans and other options.
If after your initial call with Rebecca you feel like this is not the best decision for you, we will totally honor your desire to wait and refund your registration fee.
Q: I’m not sure I have the time to do this. How much time will I need to invest, and can you promise me it’ll be worth it?
A: Our three Weekend or Weekly Workshop days are carefully planned to allow for learning, group work, individual work, and downtime.
For the weekend, you can expect to be on site for workshop between the hours of 3:30PM-8PM on Thursday, 9-4/5PM on Friday and 9-1/3PM on Saturday. We recommend you use your out-of-workshop time for the completion of homework assignments, reflection, and self-care.
We trust you to attend this workshop when it’s the right time for you. If now is not the right time, there will be regular offerings available for you to choose from when the time is right for you.
Q: I don’t believe in this vulnerability stuff and I’m really resistant to sharing my feelings, or hearing about other people’s feelings. Is this workshop for me?
A: Resistance to vulnerability is very natural and very human. But we all experience vulnerability whether we acknowledge it or not. All of us experience resistance at some point during the process of examining hurts in our story. Your pre-session with Rebecca can help answer any questions or concerns you have about attending (re) define Courage. If after this meeting, you decide this is not for you, you will receive a full refund.
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About Brené Brown
The Daring Way ™ method is based on the research of Brené Brown Ph.D. LMSW. Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past twelve years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. Her groundbreaking research has been featured on PBS, NPR, CNN, The Katie Show, and Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday.
Brené is the author of the #1 New York Times Bestsellers: Braving the Wilderness (2017), Rising Strong (2014) Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the way we Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (2012), the New York Times Bestseller, The Gifts of Imperfection (2010) and I Thought It Was Just Me (2007).
Brené’s 2010 TEDx Houston talk, The Power of Vulnerability, is one of the top ten most viewed TED talks in the world, with over 11 million viewers. Additionally, Brené gave the closing talk at the 2012 TED conference where she talked about shame, courage, and innovation.
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